Sometimes you want to be a nice person, and you end up working against yourself and being the one who has to lose.
It’s possible that all this nice act might happen because you want to be seen the way you think you are.
But no matter how good of an opinion you have of your level of kindness, a time comes when you put everything in balance.
Which loss will I accept? What weights more?
The loss in the way the other person sees me? Or the loss of my comfort and well being?
In the situation I am now, I reached the point where the discomfort is so uncomfortable that I’ll take being seen as not so nice, maybe even selfish.