To tell or not to tell – my friends that I’m blogging

I’ve blogged for a while in stealth mode. Created a second set of accounts on all social media platforms I use. Yes, I went through all the chores you go through when you don’t want to be found online; yet, you do hope to have some readers. Preferable strangers you’ll never meet in real life.

I lost interest. Not in writing but in hiding. It was just too complicated to have another set of social media accounts. Surprisingly, on Facebook, I ended up having more “friends” on my other account than I have on my real one. I added whoever asked me. But I engaged with less than a handful of people.

Eventually, I decided to stop the game of hiding online. I don’t think it’s worth the effort, nor the time.

But now, I have to deal with something else – the anxiety of sharing. The thought that maybe I’ll share too much with people who might know me in real life.

If you know me, can you do me a favor? Don’t read this blog. Knowing that would be of tremendous help to my self-expression freedom. 🙂 I’m joking, of course. The internet is free. The world is free and so are you. And so am I – free to write whatever I want on my blog.

6 Replies to “To tell or not to tell – my friends that I’m blogging”

  1. Hi Teodora,
    You hinted at the reason(s) you wanted to stay “hidden” at the end of your post. If you don’t mind me asking, don’t you want your friends to know you? Aren’t those the ones you’d want, probably more than anyone else, to read your posts so they’re familiar with you, your life, etc?

    1. Hi, Scott. Yes, I should want my friends to read my blog, right? And I do. But how about people you work with, or people you haven’t seen since high school or middle school and are on your friends’ list? But I think I can handle this. 🙂

  2. Well done of stop hiding! It takes guts to plough through that anxiety, but then results are so satisfying 🙂 I also had this issue- still have sometimes- of sharing my blog with people I know, however, I started doing it few months ago and now , even when I’m scared, I still do it. Sometimes I even asked them if they wanted to see my blog- this way I work through my fears and anxieties. But once I’ve done it, I quickly realise I can’t take it back, so I just relax about it and… continue writing 🙂 Now I share my posts with people I know almost automatically- which doesn’t mean I’m not scared- I just press those buttons like mad and take a big breath after I’m done 😉

    Also, I’ve joined a FB group for writers (maybe I can actually invite you to it!) and yes, it was scary to have shared my first blog post-and consecutive ones too- but I just closed my eyes and pressed ‘send’ 🙂 And good things started happening! I’ve made some interesting connections, took part in interesting and inspiring discussions on my posts and also others and so. It gets easier.

    So take the leap ! Maybe people in your real life are actually looking forward to seeing a side of you they’ve never experienced before 🙂

    1. Hi Karina, thank you for your encouraging words. Good to know the feeling gets better over time. And I’m glad to hear you enjoy blogging and writing online. I’d love to be a part of that group you’re speaking of. 🙂

  3. Hi Teodora!

    I completely understand what you’re saying… I blogged for about two years before I told my friends I was a blogger. Mostly because it was just a hobby… but I loved it… and slowly I started to let it leak that I was writing online… and it is scary sometimes, especially when I write very personal posts… but those friends tend to be the most supportive. Good luck!

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